Talking about it.

I recently joined the community over at Single Mothers by Choice.  The name is pretty self-explanatory, but its a huge online community of women who have chosen single motherhood for one reason or another.  I have been spending most of my time in the forums with women trying to conceive (TTC).  There are tons of websites for women trying to conceive but this is the first community I have found specifically for women having a similar TTC experience as me.

It can be very, very, lonely to go through this process alone. While I know most (“coupled”) people facing infertility or trying to conceive feel lonely at times, but it just seems….different… doing this as a single person. I don’t have a partner to lean on who is sharing in the emotional roller coaster of it all.  I am usually alone when have those pangs of “WTF am I doing?  How can I afford this!?”

This is why I am choosing to be trasnparent and open to many people in my life about this weird and strange process.  As you may have gathered, its not like i’m a really discreet person to begin with but this is a huge part of my life right now and I just need to talk about it.

I started with my close friends and my (amazingly supportive) boss.  I decided very early on to not tell my parents until I am at least 3 months pregnant (fingers crossed).  But, I felt an intense need to tell my sister.  We have gotten much, much closer in the last few years.  She even flew out here at the drop of a hat when my husband left (very suddenly).  She has definitely made different life choices.  She got married at 28 and had a kid at 32.  I wasn’t sure how she was going to react but I I just bit the bullet and called her:

“I have some very big news, I’ve decided to get pregnant on my own.  Like there is literally a tank of sperm in my living room right now.”  Short pause.  “OMG that is awesome!,” my sister replied “I have hoping you woukld do this!”  Phew..!

My sister and most people I have told have been nothing but supportive and it feels great to really talk about what it going on with me.  A few people have tried to ask how I could possibly afford this or have told me “you are so brave,” but I just shut the conversation down or change the subject.  And If this doesn’t work, at the very least I will have a lot of people to lean on.




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